Facing the Post-Holiday Blues
The holidays have come and gone, and for many, the new year brings a sense of renewal and fresh beginnings. But for those grieving, January and February can feel like an emotional minefield. While others seem to have moved on - returning to routines and looking ahead - you might still feel the weight of sadness, longing, or loneliness.
Loneliness, especially in grief, can be a self-reinforcing cycle—feeling lonely often leads to further isolation, which only deepens the loneliness. So how can you break this cycle and find connection while carrying the weight of grief?
Attend a silent dinner
Silent dinners are just as they sound—a shared meal enjoyed entirely in silence. In times of grief or overwhelming and unpleasant feelings, being in company without feeling the pressure of having to engage or behave in any particular way can be both freeing and healing. Rather than plan one yourself, let a friend or family member plan one for you.
Engage in parallel play
Parallel play is part of sociologist Mildred Parten's theory, outlined in her dissertation An Analysis of Social Participation, Leadership, and Other Factors in Pre-School Play Groups, which explores the various ways children play as they grow and develop. Parten defines parallel play as a stage of social development in young children where they play alongside one another without directly interacting or influencing each other’s activities.
Fortunately, you don’t have to be a child to enjoy the benefits of parallel play. Invite a friend, family member, or even a willing stranger to join you, and choose individual activities to engage in side by side for a set period of time.
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